Hello old friend,
How are you doing?
How is your sister?
She will get better you know, I promise you she will.
I know you are worried about her but you can’t let it rule your life. You need to remain healthy if you are to be of any use to her.
Look after yourself and then you can help to look after her, and the rest of your family. Supporting your mum and dad at what is a challenging time.
Don’t do too much though. It isn’t your responsibility to look after everyone, as much as you think it is. They just need your support, you don’t need to do every little thing for them, they are adults too.
Make time to do what you enjoy and have a break from all the worrying.
It takes time to recover, you of all people know that, given the journey you have been on yourself.
Have patience and good things will come, she will get better, and she will thank you for any support you gave her, she will understand that you couldn’t be there every day, and she will appreciate that you did what you needed to in order for you to remain healthy too.
Don’t be hard on yourself, I know it’s difficult to see someone suffering when you can’t do anything to help them but other people had to do the same when you were ill and you don’t feel resentment towards them for not finding a magic cure, so she won’t feel that towards you.
You are doing all you can.
Stay strong and look after yourself and everyone else will follow.
Your compassionate friend.